The Back-Pocket List

April 22, 2017
Relationship

It seems like some of us quality black women have been stuck in the same position of singlehood for a while. The lack of quality suitors has made dating and getting hitched quite the challenge.

However, here’s the thing that I find even more challenging than us finding our equal is the number of quality black men that are available that are in a hurry to take us off the market. They have even realized that there are more quality women than men; so, they have become lackluster in their pursuit of us. It is a game of ‘I would love to have you, but  just not right now!’ So, we then become the Back-Pocket girls.

And, what is the BACK-POCKET girl/woman you may ask?  She’s the girl that he adores, the one he considers to be wife material, the one he can be himself around and take home to mom.  

The reality of this situation is that the likelihood of them circling back around while we are still available is very unlikely, especially if he spent any time getting to know that individual woman. This article may apply also to those who were in the dating process or getting to know each other phase. He would have discovered a few key things about her that would make him decide, “ I’M NOT READY YET.”  For example, she may have some standards and requirements for the relationship like accountability and quality time together. She also isn’t too keen on Netflix and Chill.  So ladies, here is what I say if you happen to find yourselves in this very situation: Pack your sh*t and move on! This make-believe, microwaved fake society of ours where a man thinks that a woman can be easily traded and/or upgraded is absolutely ludicrous. “YOU’RE GOOD ENOUGH” & MORE THAN WORTHY ENOUGH TO NOT BE PUT ON HIS BACK-POCKET LIST.

Stacy-Ann Simpson

Stacy-Ann Simpson Was born May 13, 1981 to teenage mother Juliet Perez and father Devon Almond Simpson in Kingston Jamaica. Stacy-Ann attended the Melrose All Age School after graduating she, then moved on to the Dunoon Technical High School where she spent the next few years pursuing her studies in general studies with concentration a in home economics, food and nutrition, history while obtaining her school diploma after graduation Stacy-Ann migrated to the state to join her other siblings in pursuit of better opportunity. Stacy-Ann grow up in a home with a phenomenal woman who wasn’t her paternal mother but her adopted mother , mother in every sense of the word of what a mother present .After arriving in the state Stacy-Ann always  being a industries person and good with her hands decide to get her state certification and Diploma  has a Esthetician from the dermal institute in Miami Fl , though she loved what she did and was very good at it she still felt like that wasn’t her purpose and true calling her spirit wouldn’t let her rest. At 27 years year old Stacy-Ann decides to take leap of faith and relocate to Dallas Texas to join her sister in hope of finding herself, the kind of woman she wanted to become and purpose.

Stacy-Ann Simpson, 35 has always had a passion and heart for outreach program and the gift of servitude from a very young age. Stacy-Ann was the former vice president BAM mentoring program for young girls located in the Dallas Fort Worth Area. This was easy for her to have done she is no stranger to hard work and helping others, Stacy-Ann actively volunteer with, humane society, tad for kids and Kids in distress at Antioch Missionary Baptist Church where she was a member in the State of Florida, and since relocating to Dallas TX she has continue that same spirit of giving back with volunteering with Fort Worth Food bank, Counter Culture, East Fort Worth Clean up and Walk For Dime. When she is not volunteering or pursuing her career endeavors, Stacy-Ann can be found hosting her own podcast talk show, Tea Talk Time with her follow co-host Dee Moore, where she provides a platform for men and women to discuss real life issues within their community and families. Stacy-Ann enjoys cooking; listening to music live entertainment like stage plays, musical, movies etc and spending quality time with her family and friends.

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